Lessons from the one that hurt me

Clarina Tiara Agneta
2 min readApr 9, 2024


You taught me how it feels to be on the receiving end of heartbreak

And truly understand the weight of my actions

You taught me that sometimes villains aren’t really villains,

and that just because someone hurts us,

it does not make them a bad person.

You taught me that all the anger we hold on to isn’t worth it,

and that holding onto it does more harm than good.

You taught me forgiveness is choosing myself,

and that I could just let it go.

You taught me that your happy ending isn’t my sad ending.

You taught me that as humans sometimes we can hurt others

with or without intentions, and that does not make us bad people

but rather, sometimes it means we are in pain.

You taught me to let go my pain, let go of my anger,

let go of my failure, and to accept that.

Some people are just not meant for each other.

You taught me that ego when truly hurt can really vilify someone,

when perhaps they are just human after all.

You taught me that pain can end with you,

and that we have the power to end the pain we receive it.

And in the most liberating way, end the cycle of pain in this world.

I can’t pretend that we never hurt each other, but I can believe that we can just magically going to be together again.

But all I know now is:

I am done.

I am done trying to convince you to love me,

I just don’t have it in me anymore.

I am done being angry at you for

Not choosing me back.

I guess I have finally accepted that if I want to be happy,

I have to let you be happy too.

So, can we just be happy now?